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Still Alive. Still Living.

Jeff Nguyen — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 06:07:58 +0000

It's been Me and McQueen the last few months.

Soundtrack of Mi Vida: I’m Waiting for the Day – Beach Boys

Anything once, and twice if it tingles

Jeff Nguyen — Thu, 14 Feb 2008 04:01:59 +0000

I’ve been flipping things inside-out lately, getting in the middle of the crowd rather than observing it. Somehow it quiets my mind. Maybe it’s for the same reason I like reading at a noisy airport and feel eerily alone in a crowd at a concert. Maybe thats why I haven’t written much.

I believe that I write partly because I want to experience things again, “to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospection.”

I am gonna go marinate on that a bit.

In the meantime im gonna share my latest crack, The Take Away Shows from LaBlogotheque.

Soundtrack of Mi Vida: Hymne à l’amour- My Brightest Diamond(see above)

Believe It When I See It

Jeff Nguyen — Fri, 29 Jun 2007 05:16:34 +0000

Sometimes I think a healthy romantic relationship (or my idea of one) is like Montana. I’ve heard reputable and educated people talk about it, read about it and even seen footage of it on TV but I’ve never set foot on its soil or seen its mountains with my own eyes. So does it really exist? (and really, have you ever met anyone from Montana?) It’s just plain sad when I think about it. I don’t know a single healthy romantic relationship. I think there are relationships that “work” but aren’t necessarily healthy. People stay together for companionship, to raise kids, to financially maintain a lifestyle, and there is nothing really wrong with those reasons but I don’t I think they are the initial reasons to be together. Call me naive but I am going to hold on to my make-believe notions of love and Montana is a conspiracy by the man to keep the brown man down.

Soundtrack of Mi Vida: Keep it Loose, Keep it Tight – Amos Lee

People Quitting People

Jeff Nguyen — Tue, 29 May 2007 12:56:35 +0000

Its 4:13am and I am up and got a rumbling stomach ache. WTF!? So as I listen to my poor Tiki gnaws his leg off and stare at the black ceiling, I think about what I been thinking about this week…

All relationships take work. But what do you do when the work you are putting in isn’t yielding the desired results? You work harder at it because either you haven’t been or think you can make up for the other person’s lack of work. Sometimes, you work smarter by reflecting, soliciting advice from friends, Dr. Phil, and a C. Tennis article or two, and then mix well and apply: clarifying roles and expectations, honest communication, dialogue, and all that other stuff you can put in 10-step program. If that all that don’t work you do what I think alot of people do, lower your expectations (I’ve been told I have higher ones than most folks which I find very disheartening but that topic is for another day/ungodly hour of the morning). But when is it OK to just throw in the towel and call it quits? When you have lowered your expectations to the point you have to remind, no, convince yourself why you are in the relationship at all and it just hurts to try anymore? I’ve been through it, seen people go through it, see people going through it now, so I know there isn’t a simple answer. But I know one thing for sure. My heart gets heavier and heavier when I feel that people are quiting on themselves. Giving up what they know are the non-negotiables to them, the sine qua non in a relationship that will bring them happiness. And for what? Cynical Jeff says, “so the other person can get what they want while you starve yourself?”

Damn I hope I don’t have an ulcer. Gonna go poo now. Smooches.

Some pics from last week*

Friends

Food

Soundtrack of Mi Vida: More than Us – Travis

*The photo-gallery is under construction.

Having one leg in and one leg out the door means you are not going anywhere.

Jeff Nguyen — Mon, 02 Oct 2006 01:49:37 +0000

Soundtrack of Mi Vida: This Time-DJ Shadow